Connect. Gather. Play.
The Agenda is a private, community-focused lifestyle organization based in Ottawa dedicated to fostering deep connection and radical self-expression through shared events and gatherings. Grounded in a rigorous commitment to informed, enthusiastic consent, the group provides a secure, intentional space where members can explore and build authentic relationships. By prioritizing transparency and safety, The Agenda ensures that the freedom to be one's true self is always supported by a foundation of trust and mutual respect.
How to Join
Attend Public Events: Attending our public events is typically the first step to experience our community. These are generally hosted in a public space such as a restaurant or a beach in the summer.
Reference & Reason: The public event requirement may be waived if you provide both a character reference from a current member in good standing or a respected community member, and adequate reasoning for not attending a public event. Each request for an exception will be considered on a case-by-case basis.
Review our rules and values: Familiarize yourself with The Playbook.
Join our mailing list: You will be provided with a link that will allow you to create a profile within our Hubspot account. This profile will only be visible to the organizer. From here you will be kept up to date with our private events through the email you provided.
Public Events Summer 2026
Frequently asked questions
Are you on Fetlife?
Absolutely! This is the only public space where the dates for both our public and private events are shared. Our username is TheAgenda. Feel free to add us as a friend!
What is the average age of the people who attend your parties?
Most of the group is between 30-50.
Where can I view the rules for parties?
You can view The Playbook here.
I can't make it to a munch. How can I attend the private parties?
The public event requirement may be waived if you provide both a character reference from a current member in good standing or a respected community member, and adequate reasoning for not attending a public event. Each request for an exception will be considered on a case-by-case basis.
I am a single male. How do I attend events?
We aim to keep the parties balance and single men are required to message first regarding their intent to attend, and will be accepted as numbers permit. Your attendance is only confirmed when you receive notification that your payment has been accepted. Sending payment does not guarantee your attendance.
What do you provide at your parties?
Lifestyle Latex condoms in regular and large, Skyn condoms in regular size, and water based lube.
Occasionally, I will also bring some toys. It is required to use condoms over these toys and wash thoroughly when you are done with them. If necessary, plug them in so they can be charged for the next user.
What should I bring for the potluck?
It is preferable to bring something healthy to share, of course that is not required. We have seen everything from chips, to homemade dishes.
Just please be aware that members of the community has known sensitivities to gluten, dairy, kiwi, pineapple, and melon. Make sure if your dish contains any of these ingredients it is labeled. There are mini black boards and chalk markers provided for this.
For the safety of our members with severe allergies, do not bring dishes containing fish or shellfish.
Where do I send EMT's for events to?
I am attending a private event. When do I receive location info?
For hotel parties, the address and parking information will be sent to attendees on the day of by email, around 2pm. The room number will be shared after check in. You may request the hotel information earlier if you plan to book a room for the night.
For events hosted at larger venues, the information will be sent out to attendees earlier in the day.
I forgot an item at a party, how do I get it back?
Let us know ASAP so if we are still in the room or venue, we can look for it. If it is found, you can arrange a time to pick it up.